A paternity leave debate has somehow taken over MLB’s postseason, and it’s the kind of argument that never should have gotten off the ground.
It started with San Diego Padres closer Mason Miller, who missed Game 3 of the NLDS against the Milwaukee Brewers on Tuesday because his wife, Jordan, went into labor with their first child. The Padres put him on MLB’s postseason paternity list, which allows a player to be away from the club for one to three days.
San Diego was facing elimination, and Miller is its All-Star closer, so his absence mattered on the field. It did not, however, require a public referendum.
Then Max Fried stepped into the conversation from the other side of the country.
With the New York Yankees facing elimination in Game 3 of the ALDS against the Tampa Bay Rays, Fried said Tuesday that he intends to make his scheduled start even if his girlfriend goes into labor. She is due any day, but Fried said he has family support and that the situation will not affect his availability Wednesday.
That is his call, and it’s fine. So is Miller’s.
If Fried and his partner have talked it through and decided he should pitch, that is their business. But his choice does not turn into some weird toughness contest for Miller, or for whoever comes next.
Fried taking the ball does not make him more committed than Miller. Miller stepping away does not mean he cares less about his teammates.
These are personal decisions made by two people, one of whom is about to give birth. They are not tests of clubhouse leadership, and they are definitely not an invitation for fans to decide which player “wants it more.”
What do we think, Baseball Bros?
Mason Miller and Max Fried are both having babies during do-or-die games with their teams on the brink of elimination.
One of them is going to be with his family while the other is going to be with his baseball team.
What's the right move??? pic.twitter.com/3HCQ06Bd5D
- Baseball Bros (@BaseballBros) October 7, 2026
The whole debate gets even uglier when you remember Alex Vesia.
Less than a year ago, the Los Angeles Dodgers reliever stepped away before the 2025 World Series because of what the team initially called a "deeply personal family matter." His wife, Kayla, had been expecting their first child.
Later, the Vesias announced that their newborn daughter, Sterling Sol, died on Oct. 26.
Vesia missed the World Series because his family needed him through an unimaginable loss.
Months later, Vesia said leaving his teammates was hard, but the decision itself was easy: his family needed him. That should have ended the conversation right there.
Nobody watching from a couch knows what is happening inside a delivery room. Nobody knows whether a pregnancy that looks routine will stay that way.
Nobody knows what complications could hit the mother or child. Nobody knows what that couple has been dealing with privately to reach that moment.
And nobody needs to.
That is why Miller does not owe anyone an explanation for leaving the Padres during an elimination game. It is also why Fried does not owe anyone an explanation for pitching for the Yankees. The only people whose opinions matter are the players and their partners.
There is also something backwards about treating a father showing up for childbirth like some optional luxury, then judging it by how important the game happens to be that night.
MLB has a paternity list for exactly this reason. Miller did not bail on his team. He used a recognized form of leave because his wife was giving birth to their child.
And the Padres survived anyway, beating Milwaukee 4-3 with Michael King recording a six-out save to extend their season. Funny how that works.
Baseball teams are built with 26 players, and organizations plan for injuries, illness and all kinds of unexpected absences because people are not machines built only around a postseason calendar. Having a baby fits pretty comfortably in the category of a life event that matters more than baseball.
None of that takes anything away from Fried’s decision, either. The Yankees are on the brink, and their ace wants the ball. Yankees fans can respect that while also understanding that another player could make the opposite choice and deserve the same respect.
That is the part this whole conversation keeps missing. Fried does not need to be criticized for pitching.
Miller does not need to be criticized for leaving. After what happened with Vesia and his family, there really should not be any need for another reminder that some moments make the scoreboard look very small.
A player should never have to wonder whether strangers will say he abandoned his team because he chose to stand beside his partner while their child was born.
Max Fried made his choice. Mason Miller made his.
Both were theirs to make. There never needed to be a debate at all.
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