Two days before her final flight, Mari-Rae Sopper sent out an email that summed up the leap she was making. The subject line read: “New Job New City New State New Life.”
It was more than a catchy note to friends and family. Sopper was leaving behind a $98,000 attorney salary in Washington, D.C., to take a $27,000 head coaching job at the University of California Santa Barbara. She was chasing the career she had always wanted.
That kind of ambition had defined her long before 2001. Sopper arrived at Iowa State as an unheralded freshman walk-on and worked her way into a full athletic scholarship for her final three seasons. By the time she graduated in 1988 with a bachelor’s degree in exercise science, she had also been named Iowa State’s Most Valuable Gymnast as a senior.
Former Iowa State gymnastics coach K.J. Kindler remembered the kind of mark Sopper left on the program.
“She did a great job for ISU,” Kindler told the Iowa State Daily in 2003. “She was a top all-arounder at the time and had a huge impact on the team.”
Sopper kept building after college. She earned a master’s degree in athletic administration from the University of North Texas in 1993 and then picked up a Juris Doctor from the University of Denver College of Law in 1996.
Her next stop was Washington, D.C., where she spent four years as a lieutenant in the U.S. Navy Judge Advocate General’s Corps, working on appellate cases. Her mother, Marion Kminek, said that was the area where Sopper really stood out.
“She started out as a defense attorney, and then went into defensive appellate,” Kminek told the Punta County Sun on Monday. “That’s where she shined, writing the papers and the whole thing for the appellate court.”
After her military service, Sopper joined the law firm Schmeltzer, Aptaker & Shepard as an associate. Even while practicing law, she stayed tied to gymnastics, serving as an assistant coach and choreographer at George Washington University and with the U.S. Naval Academy club program.
Still, the pull of full-time coaching never left. Kminek said her daughter wanted out of the legal grind and into the sport she loved.
“She was prosecuting the little guy, and she hated it,” Kminek said. “She always wanted to be a college gymnastics coach.”
Kindler remembered getting an email from Sopper before she left for California, and the sacrifice she was willing to make to chase that dream.
“She gave up a job where she was making three or four times as much to do something she had always wanted to try,” Kindler said.
On the morning of Sept. 11, Sopper was getting ready for the cross-country move with her cat, Luther.
Former Navy JAG colleague Jim Bailey drove her to Dulles International Airport and helped with her luggage and pet crate. At security, Sopper had to carry the cat out of the carrier through the checkpoint before putting Luther back inside with help from people nearby.
She boarded American Airlines Flight 77 headed for Los Angeles, where her new coaching job was waiting. Hijackers seized the plane and crashed it into the Pentagon at 9:37 a.m. local time, killing everyone aboard - including Sopper, who was 35, and her cat - along with 125 people inside the building.
Sopper was later interred at Arlington National Cemetery. The Navy JAG Corps dedicated a conference room inside the Pentagon in her honor, and she is also remembered at the Pentagon Memorial in Virginia and the National September 11 Memorial in New York City.
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